DAY TO DAY - RESPONDING TO YOUR BABY'S CRIES

Crying serves several useful purposes for your baby. It gives him a way to call for help when he's hungry or uncomfortable. It helps him shut out sights, sounds, and other sensations that are too intense to suit him. And it helps him release tension.

You may notice that your baby has fussy periods throughout the day, even though he's not hungry, uncomfortable, or tired. Nothing you do these times will console him, but right after these spells, he may seem more alert than before, and shortly thereafter may sleep more deeply than usual. This kind of fussy crying seems to help babies get rid of excess energy so they can return to a more contented state.

Pay close attention to your baby's different cries and you'll soon be able to tell when he needs to picked up, consoled, or tended to, and when he is better off left alone. You may even be able to identify his specific needs by the way he cries. For instance, a hungry cry is usually short and low pitched, and it rises and falls. 

An angry cry tends to be more turbulent. A cry of pain or distress generally comes on suddenly and loudly with a long, high-pitched shriek followed by a long and pause and then a flat wail. The "leave-me-alone" cry is usually similar to a hunger cry. It won't take long before you have a pretty good idea of what your baby's cries are trying to tell.

Sometimes different types of cries overlap. For example newborns generally wake up hungry and crying for food. If you're not quick to respond, your baby's hunger cry may give way to a wail of rage. You'll hear the difference. As your baby mature his cries will become stronger, louder, more insistent. They'll also begin to vary more, as if to convey different needs and desires.

The best way to handle crying is to respond promptly to your infant whenever he cries during his first few months. You cannot spoil a young baby by giving him attention; and if you answer his calls for help, he'll cry less overall.

When responding to your infant's cries, try to meet his diapers is wet, warm him up, change his diaper, and then feed him. If there's a shrieking or panicked quality to the cry, you should consider the responsibility that a diaper pin is open or a strand of hair is caught around a finger or toe. If he's warm, dry, and well fed but nothing is working to stop crying, try the following consoling techniques to find the ones that work best for your baby:

• Rocking, either in a rocking chair or in your arms as you sway from side to side.
• Gently stroking his head or patting his back or chest
• Swaddling(Wrapping the baby snugly in a receiving blanket)
• Singing or talking
• Playing soft music
• Walking him in your arms, a stroller, or a carriage
• Riding in the car
• Rhythmic noise and vibration
• Burping him to relieve any trapped gas bubbles
• Warm baths (Most babies like this, but not all.)

Sometimes, if all else fails, the best approach is simply to leave the baby alone. Many babies cannot fall asleep without crying, and will go to sleep more quickly if left to cry for a while. The crying shouldn't last long if the child is truly tired. 

If your baby is inconsolable no matter what you do, he may be sick. Check his temperature. If its over 100degrees Fahrenheit, he could have an infection. Contact your pediatrician.